God’s grace For The over whelmed moms

Because God’s Strength Shows Up In Our Weakness

Hey Mamas! Happy Fall! This is my favorite time of year—not only because my birthday is in October, but because of the beautiful Fall colors, the cool weather, cozy attire, and all the seasonal joys. May your Fall be as beautiful and blessed as you are!

Recently, I’ve heard from a lot of moms who feel guilty. Guilty for yelling at their kids. Guilty for being short with them. Guilty for snapping in frustration after a long day. I get it. As moms, we juggle so much—work, the house, the marriage, the school pickups, homework, after-school programs, church, activities…the list goes on. That’s a lot for one person to carry.

But I have one word for you, one word that I’ve had to cling to as a wife, a mother, and a business owner: GRACE.

Grace is unmerited favor, God’s empowering strength, overflowing gift that is available to all who believe. Grace isn’t earned but is freely given through Jesus Christ. “For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people.” Titus 2:11

Simply put, God’s Grace is an essential that can guide you through each second if you allow it. That’s my definition from my walk.

Grace is God stepping in when I can’t. It’s His hand holding me when my emotions want to run wild. It’s His strength showing up in my weakest moments. Grace doesn’t excuse me—it equips me. Grace isn’t about being perfect—it’s about relying on a perfect God. The Bible says it like this: “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

As moms, we need grace like we need air. God didn’t hand us a manual when He made us mothers, but He did give us the Holy Spirit and the gift of His grace. And there’s a big difference between knowing we have grace and actually walking in it. Walking in grace means stepping into humility and saying, “God, I need Your help right here, right now.” “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” (James 4:6)

I’ll be real with you—I used to holler all the time. Every time my kids did something they were not suppose to do, I would get on to them but God showed me it is a way to do it. of course we must be sterned at times but the Holy Spirit showed me something one day: I was watering my seeds (my children) with the wrong water. And that broke me. Because I realized that even though I wasn’t harming my kids physically (I’m extremely protective of them), the words I spoke and the way I spoke them could shape how they grew. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” (Proverbs 18:21)

Our children are pure seeds, and what we water them with—love, patience, grace, or anger, frustration, harsh words—matters. It matters more than we think. “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4)

Now listen, even if you have those moments where you lose your patience and words slip out in anger, you need to hear this: YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER. You’re a mother who needs grace, just like all of us. “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning.” (Lamentations 3:22–23)

The good news? God doesn’t leave us in guilt. He gives us a way forward. The next time you feel that wave of frustration rising, step into grace instead of guilt. Take a breath. Pause. Pray. Apologize if you need to. And keep moving forward. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” (Romans 12:2)

What helps me is remembering that I live for God’s approval, not people’s. Having an intimate relationship with my Heavenly Father—the One who saved me, transformed me, and gave me a new heart—makes me a better mom. His strength shows up in my weakness. That strength is called grace. “The joy of the Lord is your strength.” (Nehemiah 8:10)

Don’t let a temporary moment leave a permanent mark on your child. Our little ones are blessings. They may cry, whine, or make a mess, but how we handle those moments can leave a lasting impression. Let them see Jesus in our actions—even when it’s hard. “Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:14)

So for the moms who feel weighed down by guilt, here’s my encouragement: don’t stay there. Take a deep breath, repent to God, apologize to your babies if needed, and let the Holy Spirit counsel you the next time. Guilt is temporary, but grace is eternal.

God is still teaching me how to mother. And honestly, we’ll never stop learning. We may think we know it all when we first hold that baby, but truthfully, we need our Father to keep fathering us as we mother the children He’s entrusted to us. “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)

So right here, right now, if you’ve been carrying guilt, let it go. Repent if you need to, and decide to walk in grace moving forward. Remember, there are really three parents in your home—Father God, Daddy, and Mama. You don’t have to do this alone. God always has the final say, and His grace is more than enough.

From one Mother to the next,

MAMA TONI